Guest Post: Giving + Receiving

Issue #24 — 3.3 minute read

Hey, y'all—Jake here. This is the first of what will hopefully be many Guest Posts from people I admire about topics they care about.

Today's post was written by Kendra Gaunt. I work with Kendra at The Trevor Project where she is the Product Manager for our Data & AI team. She is a 2021 Moxie Award Winner, writer, speaker, and caretaker of two adorable cats, Orion and Sage. We usually spend our weekly 1:1 meetings chatting about philosophy and cats—so yeah, she’s pretty cool. You can find her on Instagram @via.kendra. Without further ado, here's Kendra's post on Giving + Receiving.


I’ve come to realize that withholding pieces of myself until I am satisfied by an external condition is what blocks me from receiving what I want (and more often than not, this is the condition itself - cute, right?).

This dynamic creates a power struggle - an imbalance of giving and receiving - in the name of maintaining a personal drama (ego).

To keep me in alignment, I often remind myself how space works: when I “lose” something, it creates room for something to take its place.

Curious about what other people think about giving and receiving, I sought some inspiration:


bell hooks

The mutual practice of giving and receiving is an everyday ritual when we know true love.

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Maya Angelou 

I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver.

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Deepak Chopra

Giving and receiving are different expressions of the same flow of energy in the universe.

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Denver Moore

We must understand that the only thing that we keep forever is the thing that we give away, and the more you give the more you get.

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Lao Tzu

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.

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Mahatma Gandhi

The best way to find yourself, is to lose yourself in the service of others.

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Buddha

If beings knew, as I know, the results of giving & sharing, they would not eat without having given…

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Kahlil Gibran

You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.

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Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr

Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?’


What resonates from these pieces of wisdom is a common theme: when we’re not afraid of losing our attachment, we can engage in a reciprocal exchange of energy that nourishes ourselves and others.

The next time you feel that you aren’t receiving something you desire, try asking yourself: what am I giving to create capacity for what I want to receive?

As we give without expectation, we design a stronger invitation to receive.

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✌️ Until next week, happy philosophizing.


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